My Second Life

    My journey into the world of Second Life began over 11 years ago. Wow! Typing that makes me feel old.

I  discovered Second Life thanks to some friends I met on a game called YoVille (now YoWorld) on Facebook. A group of five of us had bonded and formed a family. When we had achieved everything we could on YoVille, it began to get boring and we needed a change. My friend Kelly found Second Life. 

 Needless to say, the transition from a literal cartoon character, to a more realistic cartoon character was a culture shock, to say the least. I will admit, there was a lot of frustration, stress, crying, and a lot of naked box wearing. It wasn't long before I said screw it and went back to my comfort zone of YoVille. 

    

 About a month after I unceremoniously threw in the towel, I decided to give Second Life another shot, well more like I was begged to, but I digress. After help from my little family and a few friends, I was soon out of Freebie Galaxy and thriving on my avatar. I finally had my shit together and wasn't completely noobing it out. 

After a while the family I came into Second Life with started to drift away, real-life can be a bitch, what can I say. 

  

  Soon Second Life became an escape from my real life. A break from the depression, sadness, and an unhappy marriage. I found friends that I couldn't really have in reality, even though they were real friends, they were virtual, not like I could reach out and touch them. Over time these friends would help me see my worth. Help me see that I was worth more than I was getting from my real-life relationship. They helped me gain the strength I needed to walk away from the pain, and sadness.

I moved from Ohio to Florida in the spring of 2011 and stayed engrossed in my Second Life world. Soon the friends who helped me get out of my situation started almost staking their claim on me. Like I went from being one person's property to another's. I wasn't letting that happen, so I cut ties. 

This is where my story gets interesting...to me at least. 

My Second Life in the BDSM D/s lifestyle centered around Master/slave because one of the friends who helped me told me that's who I was...he was wrong. He was trying to control me to and I wasn't having that.

Soon found a place on the grid called Daddy's Playhouse, and this is where my life would change. I learned things about myself that I hadn't known before, I opened doors in my mind that had been closed, I found my true self. I was/am a babygirl. 

I found like-minded females, some of whom had similar paths to me, they soon became friends and helped shape me into the person I am today. 

Daddy's Playhouse became my home, my sanctuary, and the people there became friends. I laughed, cried, and even fell in love there. I wouldn't change those days for the world.

I met a girl named Callie, she was 10 years younger than me but we just clicked. We became fast friends and soon started calling each other sister. She stood by me in Second Life, through broken hearts, fake friends, and more. She was my ride or die. 

Of course, real-life happened and I fell in love with a man I believed was my Prince Charming. Things started off perfectly, he was perfect. He loved me unlike how I had ever been loved, made me feel special, and made me feel wanted. Oh, how I was wrong. Soon, he transformed into a monster. 

The abuse only got worse. In 2013 he had me deactivate all my Second Life accounts and took away part of my happiness but cutting me off from all of my friends, specifically Callie. I was made to change my phone number and block anyone Second Life related from Facebook. I was once again a prisoner in a relationship. Callie did manage to send me a few messages from her mom's account, even if they were just lyrics to a song that we called our song.

Click here to listen to Oath by Cher Lloyd

Five years later, I finally escaped that relationship. After a month or so of being on my own, I thought of Callie and made a new Second Life account, and Desi was born. 

Of course, this is my avatar now, I wouldn't scar you with the old stuff

I got my avatar all set up, and let me tell you that was a task in itself. Mesh....that's all I have to say. I had to learn everything. I sent Callie a friend request and then unblocked her on Facebook and asked her if she still played Second Life. She had been taking periodic breaks, but as soon as I told her I was back, she came on. 

She and I picked up right where we left off as if no time had passed. And we haven't looked back.

Anyone who interacts on Second Life knows that friendships and family come and go, but not with me and her, she's my sister to the end. 

Yes, we take goofy photos. Don't judge us. 

Since being back on Second Life, I have fallen in love with a man I met in world, and we have transitioned to real life, and are even engaged to be married. While he still has his avatar, he doesn't come on anymore due to working long hours. I do use his avatars for photos though...and I steal his weekly Second Life money that he gets sent for being a premium member.

I have also found my forever family- The Runes. My Second Life parents Rose and Chad took Callie and me in after our previous family imploded.  The Runes or in my case Rune-Thorne's are a constant in my life. Our family bush has lots of branches but we love each other just the same. 

Chad, Rose, Gold, Desi, Macey, Callie, and Gracie
*This is only part of the family. Good luck getting us all together to take a photo.

I also have three beautiful daughters in Second Life. Macey ,Gracie and Britney. Those three girls are so special to me and I couldn't imagine my life without them.

Macey and Gracie

Britney

Are we perfect? No, LOL! We have knock-down, drag-out fights but things never stay like that for long. We've had people leave the family but the core of the family remains the same. Surrounded by love, respect, and unlimited laughs.

These days, my Second Life is very calm. I've seemed to cut all the negative and toxic people from my world. Knocks on wood. I no longer work in Second Life, I found no need for it, it just caused unneeded stress. Not to mention I already work a 9 to 5 in real-life, why do I want to work in Second Life as well. I just have to fund my own shopping addiction and trust me, the addiction is real! I spend my days with family and friends, just hanging out, shopping, doing photos, and laughing. 

I have no doubt, that all I have been through has lead me to where I am, and I know that I'm right where I am meant to be.